Mornings are the ideal time of day. Sunshine glinting through the blinds, a newspaper waiting on the front stoop, a fresh pot of coffee brewing in the kitchen. It’s the time of possibility— this day could be anything you want it to be. You have an expanse of time ahead of you to do whatever your little heart so deeply desires.
Reality check: we don’t wake up every morning ready to take on the world.
(Heck, some mornings I don’t even want to put on pants.)
There are plenty of days where I feel stuck. I’m not always sure what to do next or what direction to go in. There are plenty of times when I get sidetracked, or distracted, or simply don’t have a plan to start with. And those are the times when I get caught up in my own thoughts and can’t shake the feeling that maybe all I’m meant to do that day is lounge on the couch in sweatpants.
We’ve all got big plans. Goals we want to accomplish. Items on a mile-long to-do list that we can’t seem to check off. And there are too many moments when we get lazy, or distracted, or nervous and think, “Oh, well, I’ll get there someday.”
Let me tell you something, plain and simple: someday isn’t coming any sooner, love. You’ve got to pick up the pieces of your dreams, your desires, your heart, and just go for it. Start somewhere.
Here are tips on how to do just that:
Get it all out now. All the insecurities, all the fear, all the wishy-washy doubts of “I can’t do this” and “I’m not good enough.” Do whatever it takes to cleanse yourself of those obstacles: complain, cry, throw a tantrum. Cling to some Kleenex until you’re ready to face this fact: none of those thoughts you beat yourself up with were true.
2. Tell a friend.
Word vomit into an email. Spill out all your desires, secrets, troubles, wants, and needs. Send it off to your BFF with no regrets. Trust me, their response will be the perfect mix of encouragement and tough love advice that you need to hear. Let them be your cheerleader and your drill sergeant through this process.
3. Put on some lipstick.
Or your favorite shirt. Or that brand new pair of shoes you bought two weeks ago. You have everything it takes to play the part, but putting yourself in the mind frame that you “look” the part can be a huge confidence boost.
4. Order a tall latte.
And maybe a blueberry muffin. Hard work takes determination and a little bit of gusto; you’ll at least need a shot of caffeine to fuel you through this. Treat yourself.
5. Change your environment.
Get out from under the covers and head to a spot with free wi-fi. Whether it’s your local library or a hip co-working space, changing your surroundings can amp up your productivity. Make yourself a promise: that space is going to be your nest until you tackle that nagging task on your to-do list. Don’t go home until it’s done.
6. Take baby steps.
Write down whatever it is that you want to achieve. Then write down every step on the road to getting there. Nothing is too small to consider. Script it all out and hang it some place prominent. Go from one task to the next. Check all those accomplishments off. This is the path to that “someday” goal.
7. Read + research.
There’s always something new to learn. Don’t close yourself off by thinking that you already have all the answers. (Trust me, no one does.)
8. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.
Those inspiring mentors you look up to? Send them an email. That friend who has the dream job you want? Tweet them for advice. People are willing to help. Seek and you shall find.
9. Focus on the have’s.
You got something beautiful going on, love. There is always plenty to be grateful for, but we overlook all of that goodness by sourly focusing on what we still want. Take a few minutes to think about your blessings. Write them all down. Appreciate them every chance you get.
10. Be relentlessly you.
You’ve got somewhere to be, but you won’t get there by cutting corners. Don’t let anyone’s harsh opinions or scathing words deflect you from what you’re after. Don’t shy away from being yourself through the entire process— it’s the most authentic way to reach your goal.
All you have to do is start somewhere.